Kitchen Sink Fighting--Esther Perel tells us how to deal with it!

Esther Perel is an expert in relationships and shares some of her wisdom here in this video on How to Fight Better: Kitchen-Sinking.  

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In this video, Esther tells us to keep the big picture of our relationship in mind while fighting.  In other words, remember that you love and like the person you are fighting with.  Here are 4 steps she outlines to improve fighting:

1. Stick to the issue at hand.
2. Focus on the behavior, not the person.
3. Convey that you still like/love the person despite the behavior.
4. Keep focused on YOUR experience, not theirs. 

Although she is talking about partner relationships, the techniques work for just about any kind of "kitchen-sink" fight.    

The video is entertaining as well as educational! If you liked it, Ms. Perel is an author and public speaker.  She has many YouTube videos and an excellent TED Talk.  You can go to her webpage for to access her work!